In my experience….

In my experience, unplanned events frequently cause me to feel anxious. For instance, when I have an upcoming examination , my heart races, and my mouth starts to dry up. Events that have already occurred have a tendency to elicit emotions like fear or disappointment before evolving into rage. Reliving, reenacting, or daydreaming about responses I won’t ever use is typically what turns a bad sensation into a molten pot of aggravation and frustration.
We are aware of the evolutionary and societal advantages of negative emotions; after all, we must feel bad about something so as to avert it in the future, and we can’t possibly comprehend what it’s like to feel good until we first know what it’s like to feel bad. Negative feelings and emotions cannot be completely eliminated, nor do I believe they should be, but how can we react to them without giving them more space than they need? And without merely suppressing the negative feelings so they wait in the shadows, ready to pounce when we’re weak or tired later on. In a way that enables us to return to the present moment, the only moment in which we can actually live life.
By putting away feelings of fear, hatred, or disappointment, we place them in a small container of storage where they can wait to surface at a later time. However, by naming the emotion, we’re essentially letting it in. When we recognise it for what it is, the sensation itself shrinks, becomes less frightening, and is easier to comprehend. Having identified the feeling, we can extend an invitation to it and begin to be curious about its existence. In essence, we can begin to ask ourselves, “Why?”
It’s possible that anything brought back terrible memories of an earlier unpleasant experience, causing you to go through them again.After asking ourselves “why,” it is time to question the other person, if there is one, and if it is possible. We would probably not have the opportunity if the other individual had been a bystander on the street. It is especially crucial to comprehend their viewpoint if they are someone we love or with whom we frequently interact.
Once we have considered their viewpoint, we should grasp and comprehend them. Maybe you’ll need to ask some clarifying questions, maybe you’ll need to say that you weren’t expecting him to say that or you have understood him now.In either case, having an open dialogue will help you reach a solution on how to handle the circumstance. This understanding fosters empathy for the other person’s circumstance and feelings. In the midst of compassion, our bad emotions begin to withdraw and depart naturally.